Satistfied Women ReDefine Orgasm: A NEW Definition Means Expanded Pleasure

Overcoming the Male-Script of Sexual Success

101 Guide To Women's Orgasm
For Women & Men
by Gabriella Moore

Part 4 of 5: Womens Orgasm -- Sexual Success Redefined

Dr. Carol Ellison, provides a powerful argument to redefine sexual success in her latest book, Women's Sexualities.

She implies that womens orgasm should never be goal, rather it is a potential and very welcomed by-product of successful intimate sex.

Dr. Ellison's definition of sexual success:

"A couple is sexually successful when they create a mutual erotic pleasure, to whatever level and whatever form they desire on any particular occasion, so that each ends up feeling good about herself or himself and the other, experiencing a good time and enhancing their relationship" (p.217)

Notice that the definition does not include any sexually functions such as:

• Womens Orgasm
  
  
• Lubrication
  
  
• Lasting longer

Nor does it say anything about requiring intercourse or how the stimulation occurs.

This definition also uses the word "create" rather than achieving to emphasize that pleasure is experienced in the process of making-love.

Creating also implies that you never arrive.

That sexual success is found in the doing and in the achievement.

... And achievement should result in a mutual desire to continue

Dr. Ellison's definition is called a pleasure-focused approach to sex, an alternative to the goal-focus approach.

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The irony is that if you can define sexual success beyond the womens orgasm, your intensity and frequency of your orgasm will improve dramatically!

When womens orgasm becomes part of a journey, rather then the destination, in your experiences - you release incredible pleasure and energy by linking your body, mind and spirit in your sexual actions.

What makes this website different then most other websites, is that sexual success is not just womens orgasm focused;

Sexual success is more than a physical event; and a womens orgasm is not the only defining factor in sexual success.

The best educational resources on pleasure focus love-making include online resources that will demand you to keep an open mind. Being comfortable with content that may appear pornographic to others, may take some practice, while others may not even think twice about it.

The Womens Orgasm Revealed ebook by Orgasm Expert Gabrielle Moore approaches sexual experience from a very liberal perspective - a real world (i.e. non clinical) mindset with a focus on the process.

And the Sinclaire Institute education on female orgasm provides a more traditional western approach with a focus on outcome.

I highly recommend the

If you are reading this article, it is assumed that your deepest desire is to feel a sense of complete sexually satisfaction and an expanded womens orgasm.

Embrace this positive energy for self-improvement; your desires are neither trivial nor selfish.

It is a powerful force that can drive tremendous positive change throughout all areas of you life.

When you can experience consistent sexual success in your life you will have the ability the give back an infinite amount of love and care to your partner, family and other life activities.

Remember, improving your sexual satisfaction is simpler than you might think.

It does not involve unraveling ancient secrets and techniques to sexual bliss.

It really is more about personal development. Understanding your sexual story is a great start.

In other words, it is more than just "doing the right things", it also involves being comfortable with yourself and your sexual desires.

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Are you comfortable with your sexuality?

If you are like most women, your instinctive answer will be an immediate yes!

...However, what if the questions become more specific:

1. Do you feel at ease when you undress before your partner or stand in front of a mirror?

2. Are you truly relaxed during lovemaking, able to focus on your body's sensations without distraction, worries or guilt?

3. Do you feel completely free to explore your sexuality, try new things, talk openly with your partner and feel confident when educating your children about sex?

As you can see being sexually comfortable means more than just enjoying your sexual experiences. And it also extends beyond a womens orgasm.

When you can become comfortable in all aspects of your sexuality there are greater opportunities to experience sexual and non-sexual intimacy that fosters deep and meaningful connections to your partner and to life itself.

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Final Thought - Womens Orgasm Mantra

Dr. Elison writes a powerful statement to encourage women to expand their notions of sexual success:

"There is great variety in women's orgasmic experience. Any absolute standard about orgasm:

• that a certain kind
• or number
• or way

is better than another - simply denies the truth of the incredible and wonderful variety in the ways women experience orgasm - or not - and the multitude of ways they enjoy sexual activity in all of its wonderous forms"  [1  pg. 254]

Hopefully this article is getting to you look at your sexuality and a womens orgasm in a different light.

By visiting this site often you can expand on the ideas for your women's sexual health and provide a new view on womens orgasm!

Next the domain of marriage and a womens orgasm will be examined.

Next: Part 5 of 5>>

• Part 1: Think beyond orgasm
• Part 2: The New Meaning of Sexual Success
• Part 3: Avoid the Sex Trap
• Part 4: Then New "O"
• Part 5: Sexless Marriage Cure

Womens Orgasm References

1. Elison, C. Womens's Sexualities: Generations of Women Share Intimate Secrets of Sexual Self-Acceptance, New Harbinger Publications 2000
   
   
2. Fole, S., Kope, S., Sugrue, D, Sex Matters For Women, The Guildford Press, 2002
   
   
3. Schnarch, D., Joy With Your Underwear Down, http://cms.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-19940701-000026.html, cited 1/29/2005

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