Sexual Tips & Secrets are Hit and Miss
Until You Know Your Sexual Style

Learn to recognize and respond to 4 different sexual styles

Is your sexual style interfering with your sex life?

Or do you find that sexual tips are a hit or miss game?

In this article I explore what sexual style means and how you can determine your and your partners sexual style.

According to sex expert Dr. Carol Ellison, understanding your sexual style and knowing your partners style can be the quickest way to launch your sex life into the next orbit.

Okay maybe not so far, but definitely, sex will become more satisfying and you will be able to identify sexual tips that will help both you and your partner.

The concept is pretty basic, Dr. Ellison offers this way of looking at the problem many couples have connecting in their sex life:

"Just as there are many styles in dancing - Fox Trot, Western swing, rock, waltz, jitterbug, polka...there are many different sexual scripts and turn ons. You can teach your partner your style or together you can...develop another style. Together you can enhance your abilities to become sexually aroused together and to arouse each other."

Sensual Styles Making Sexual Tips Work For You

If you consider all the sexual tips you have listen to over the years they all can be placed in one of four sensory categories.

Most people prefer to experience the world through two primary senses over their other sense [1].

Your 4 primary senses are:

• Look
  
  
• Hear
  
  
• Taste/Smell
  
  
• Touch

When you and your partner understand what sensory preferences you each have, you can focus on the type of sexual invitation that will most likely get you going...or your partner going!

Do you know what turns-on your partner the most:

• To hear your voice
  

• Feel your touch
  

• Smell your perfume

• See your sexy lingerie

And vice versa - do you know what turns you on the most?

If your strongest sense differs than your partner you could be sending out all the wrong sexual invitations.

Obviously , this is NOT a good thing!

You see, we usual interact with others in the way we prefer to be responded to.

If you are familiar with the DiSC™© Personal Behavioral Assessment you will understand this basic idea.

For example, If you talk fast, and to the point - you most likely prefer to be spoken to in the same manner.

The same is true when you consider you sensual style.

If you prefer to be spoken to find that talking stimulates you chances are high that you talk a lot to your partner.

The trouble is what if your partner has a strong visual response and prefers touch?

If you and your partner have different sexual styles not all is lost!

It is just a manner of building a bridge in your sexual intimacy.

Make Sexual Tips Work For Your Partner!

Try to adjust your style to match that of your partners. Also choose sexual tips that work for your partner styles.

Of course, if your partner needs help - you give them a hint on a sexual tip that matches your sexual style.

Sexual Tips - Celebrate Sexual Style Differences!

Tonight pay attention to your partners language - you will be able hear the sensory style that they prefer.

Listen to the words they use. You will see a pattern or tendency to predominately describe things using one or two of the senses

A good way is to ask indirect questions about different areas of your partners life.

For example: How do you know you had a successful day at work?

Possible generic answers include:

• My boss tells me he is happy with my work!
• I see the numbers in the status reports!
• You can feel the good vibes in the office!

Here are four different ways people are expressing sexual interest:

1. It turns me on to see you walk that way!
   

2. They're playing our song! I can hear your whispers of "sweet nothings" that night!
   

3. When I feel your hands on my body, it makes me melt!

4. The smell of your perfume drives me wild, when you walk by!

Take this sexual tip on sexual styles and apply it all the other sexual tips you have ever heard of.

Categorize your sexual tips list into sexual sensory styles.

You will instantly understand why sexual tips work and others didn't.

Remember speak and act in a way the stimulates your partner! And of course make sure they reciprocate!