Everything You Wanted Know about Sex Toys
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Sex Toys For All Seasons

Or maybe you are struggling with just the idea of using a sex toy.

This very normal, there seems to be a whole lot of confusion and anxiety over sex toys.

Based on the feedback we get on this site many women are interested in sex toys, but do not take action to actually buy and use them.

So let's talk about it here and remove the confusion...

First let's talk about what are and what are not sex toys.

In the simplest terms "sex toys" is a term for any object or device that is primarily used in creating human sexual pleasure.

This term can also include BDSM (Bondage Discipline Sadism Masochism) apparatuses.

Note, sexual toys DO NOT include contraceptives, pornography, or condoms.

A related term is marital aid, often used as a euphemism for sex aids/toys which is a unfortunate thing.

This euphemism equates sex toys to a crutch which is simply down right wrong!

We will get into sex toy myths in a minute.

If you are like most women sex toys may evoke a sterile cold, hard, and flesh color object.

Something that is NOT:

• Attractive

• Erotic

• Desirable

• Pleasurable

This image has been the standard icon perpetuated by "sex myths" and poor education.

Over the last 20 years an explosion of adult products have hit the market bringing every:

• Shape

• Color

• Material

into sex toy development. The adult toy industry is literally overflowing with options for you.

So now the problem is how do you choose a product?

Today, with a little education you are guaranteed to find a product that will satisfy or evoke your deepest sexual cravings.

It is not uncommon to hear women, who for the first time make an effort to examine and actully pick and feel the sex toys available today to exclaim:

" I can't believe how this feels...if I had only known sooner...!"

The first step is always the hardest.

To reduce your anxiety about sex toys simply start out with a single goal.

Ask yourself "what do want the toy to do?"

• Clitoris stimulation

• G-Spot-Vagina stimulation

• Breast/body stimulation

• Anal play

Next, ask how to you want to use it?

• Masturbation or partner sex?

If you can answer these questions then you well on your way to finding the perfect sex toy.

But, you first need to overcome the myths of sex toys so that you can maximize the benefits and pleasure by bringing sex toys into your sex life "Anxiety FREE" .

Confidence goes a long way to improving your sex life and everything else for that matter!

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Sex Toy Myths

Here is my favorite short list of sex toy myths by Sex Expert Anne Semans from her book "Sex Toys":

1. Myth #1: "Sex toys are only for people who's sex life need help"
   
   
• Fact: Sex is suppose to be fun, playful, unpredictable, and messy! Sexual toys are a natural addition to the mix!
  
  
  
  
2. Myth #2: "Sex toys are unnatural"
   
   
• Fact: We use many props like candles and music to create and stimulate a romantic mood, it is only cultural bias that labels sex toys as unnatural.
  
  
  
  
3. Myth #3:"Guy's don't use sex toys"
   
   
• Fact: An increasing number of confident men enjoy using sex toys with their partners and not are not threatened by them - but note many men will never admit it to their male friends.
  
  
  
  

4. Myth #4:"If I use a _____ ! People will think I'm _____"

• Fact: Don't let stereotypes and what other people think suffocate your sexual curiosity:

  • If you use butt plugs, it does not mean your gay...

  • If you use a dildo, it does not mean that your a lesbian...

  • If you like to be tied up with wrist restraints, it does not mean your a dominatrix...
    
    
    

5. Myth #5: "Sex toys are for losers, loners or whimps"
   
   
   • Fact: Sex toys are in vogue thanks to shows like HBO's "Sex in The City" and talk shows like Breman&Breman.

Types of sex toys

Sex Toy Myths

Types of sex toys

• Unisex
• Female
• Male

Sexual Toy Material

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Today, there are so many choices that many women are simply confused about what toys are right for them.

Of the 1000's of products out there they all can be categorize into the following:

Male and female Toys

• Universal Sex Toys #1: Anal beads consist of a string of beads which is inserted into the anus and then slowly pulled out to provide a very satisfying stimulation, often at the moment of orgasm, in order to enhance the strength of the orgasm in both men and women.
  
  

• Universal Sex Toys #2 : Butt plugs are devices that are inserted in the anus, typically to stimulate the prostate gland for pleasure. They should have a flared end to prevent the device from being lost inside the body.
  
  

• Universal Sex Toys #3 : Liberator Shapes: The Wedge are "power pillows" that that naturally lift and tilt you into the optimal sex positions. The wedge shapes offers deeper penetrations, increased access and surprising new sensations. If you can only own one Shape - get the wedge! They are made of dense core foam for firm, comfortable support and include a removable, washable, water resistant nylon and plush velour dual cover.
  
  
  
• Universal Sex Toys #4: Sexual lubricants are more of a sexual necessity than sex toy. They are great aids to turn good great sex into great sex. Primarily lubs are used to facilitate anal or vaginal sex, or as an aid to masturbation.
  
  But they also are great to increase your touching and petting time with your partner. If you are only going to get one "sex toy" get a good lube!
  
  
  
  WARNING: household products are not intended for sex and can be harmful by increasing risk of an yeast infection.
  
  You should NEVER USE the following products as a sexual lubrication:
  
  

  • Vaseline

  • Hand Moisturizer

  • Baby Oil

  • Butter
    

  
  
  
  

  There are 2 main types of sexual lubrication:
  
  
  Water-Based: A high quality water-based lub like Liquid Silk is your best bet if you only can buy one or if you just want to explore where is why:

  • Less likely to induce a yeast infection

  • Use it on any sex toy

  • Best for vaginal sex

  
  Note, there is a great difference in the quality of water-based lubricants.

  That is why we recommend you use a product that can be described as:

  • Hypoallergenic

  • Does not contain glycerin

  
  
  Silicon-Based: Are very concentrated which means a little goes a long way. They also do not absorb or dry out like the water-based products.
  
  Silicon-based products even stays on underwater, making it great for waterproof sex toys or a hot tub frolic :)

  The viscosity and the fact that silicon-based lubs will not absorb in the skin makes it especially good for anal play - the best silcion-based lubrication today is Eros Lub.
  
  
  

• Universal Sex Toys #5: Sybian is the brand name of a combination of a saddle-shaped mount with a vibrator built onto it. From the product reviews I read it appears that this is not something women really would find pleasurable. First, one review claimed that only 1 in 3 women actually loved it. It appear to be a love or hate vote.
  
  Second it is expensive at $1400 and is a MAJOR investment, for any type of sex toy. But the device is extremely well made, and has a 90 trial period (less $75 reconditioning fee).
  
  
  
  
• Universal Sex Toys #6: Sex Dolls/Vaginas are imitations of the human form intended for simulation of sexual acts. They may consist of a representation of a face, the buttocks, genital areas, or the entire body.
  
  Love pillows, especially popular in Japan, are inflatable pillows with a life-size picture of a porn star or anime character and optionally a hole for lovemaking. More expensive realistic sex dolls exist, such as the Realdoll, the cost of which runs into several thousand dollars.
  
  
  

• Universal Sex Toys #7: Nipple Rings are a family of tools which apply pressure to the nipples. They are often used as BDSM toys or torture devices. Some of them can also provide constant, intense nipple stimulation and heightened sensitivity.

• Universal Sex Toys #8: Sex Games are usually like traditional board or card games but their terminology, content and objectives are sex oriented.
  

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Vaginal / Clitoral Stimulation sex toys

• Female Sex Toys #1: Dildo is a non-vibrating device which is used for sexual stimulation of the vagina and/or anus. Godemiche is an old word for a dildo in the shape of a penis and scrotum.
  
  

• Female Sex Toy #2: Strap-on dildo is a dildo attached to a dildo harness strapped to the groin and hips, generally to allow a person to penetrate a partner as if the dildo were the penetrator's own penis.
  
  In particular, they allow a woman to penetrate a man anally or another woman vaginally or anally. They may also be used by impotent men to allow them to penetrate their partner; strap-on dildos used this way are generally hollow, rather than solid.

• Female Sex Toys #3: double-ended dildo is a long, usually flexible dildo with both ends designed for penetration. It allows for mutual penetration between two persons.
  
  

• Female Sex Toys #4: Vibrators are vibrating devices intended to stimulate the nerves of the body.
  
  Vibrators intended for sexual use are often dildo-shaped to mimick a realistic penis. But they also come in a wide range of shapes and sizes, that have fun themes such as rabbits, butterflies and dolphins.
  
  A very popular vibrator on the market now is the Wascally Wabbit. It stimulates the g-spot and clitoris simultaneously and has a remote control making it hte perfect beside campagion for masturbation or giving your partner control.
  
  Most women report using vibrators for clitoral stimulation, but this does not mean that all have is a masturbation toy.
  
  The Perfect Partner is couples vibrator that the man wears over his penis - the vibrations work to give both you and your partner a mind blowing orgasm.
  
  

• Female Sex Toys #5: Ben wah balls are hollow metal balls, are inserted vaginally, and can be worn inside the vagina for extended periods of time. The internal rolling is said to enhance orgasms, and enable women with vaginal difficulties to reach orgasm.

• Female Sex Toys #6: Kegel exercisers, are designed to improve muscle tone in the pelvic floor, and can be used for sexual pleasure as well as enhancing vaginal response. The Kegel Exerciser™ is the number one doctor recommended product on the market today

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Penile Sex Toys

• Pocket Pussies or "vaginas" or "masturbators" are modeled to accept a penis for simulated intercourse. They can be shaped like vaginas, anuses, or anything with a hole for penetration. The Fleshlight is a popular variant of the 'artificial vagina,' and can be penetrated in a way similar to coitus.

• Cock-rings in their most basic form enhance and prolong a man's erection by keeping blood inside the penis. They are therefore useful for men with problems maintaining erection. Many basic models include a protruding clitoral stimulator, designed to tickle the clitoris during sex. Others vibrate, either vibrating the ring itself, or in a popular 'Dolphin' variant using two removable bullet vibrators to provide stimulation to the testicles and clitoris.

• A cock harness is a more elaborate harness designed to be worn around the penis and scrotum. Its intention is similar to that of a cock ring. Often associated with BDSM activities.

• A penis sleeve is a cylindrical device that is placed on the shaft of the penis, with the aim of increasing stimulation for the person being penetrated. They often have soft bumps intended to provide further stimulation.

• A penis extension is a partially hollow device like a very short dildo, with the hollow end placed on the end of the penis, intended to increase the effective length of the penis, again for the benefit of the person being penetrated. These are generally worn with condoms to stop them falling off in use.
  

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Flesh-like materials used in sex toys

• Silicone is soft and lifelike, warms up quickly to body temperature, non-porous therefore easy to clean (with mild soap and water, or boiled for sterilization).

• Cyberskin, also known under other brand names, is currently the closest emulation of real skin. This relatively new material is made of silicone and plastic. It is very porous, making it necessary to clean it very thoroughly (with antibacterial soap and water).

• Jelly is a cheaper, rubber-based material, quite porous, often translucent. It is sometimes scented to mask its strong rubber odor.

• Latex rubber is commonly used. It is cheaper, very porous, but might be allergenic to some people.
  
  

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