A New Definition of Sexual Success & Pathway To A Better OrgasmThe Key to Unlock a Lifetime of Pleasure
While This is an article for women , I encourage you to read on if you are a man - it will do wonders for your sexuality...
What are the things that you hear, see, feel or smell
that makes the sexual experience incredible? Take a moment to really get a picture and feeling of a sexual experience that you would characterize as incredible or ultimate. If you can, do NOT just have a vision of the
experience, but envision the thought - get the images out
of your head and really feel the experience in your body. Now take a moment and think about the process or the steps from beginning to end. Did your story follow a series of steps that could be generalized into a script?
Now, take a moment and think about the outcome. What outcomes happened in your story?
"Ultimate Orgasm Tips and Secrets!" If so, you have defined sexual success as achieving orgasm (female orgasm). I am sure this is will not be a big surprise for most women. However, for some others there maybe a emphasis on closness, comfort and ecurity. If so, please make a note of your vision of sexual success. For all others , take a minute and define what sexual success means to you - an sex expert definition will be shared with you shortly. Sexual success as defined aboved - touch penetration-female orgasm - is what Sexpert Dr. Beverly Whipple calls a goal-focused approach to lovemaking [1]. It is also script that is supported and driven from a male perspective.
Ultimately, Dr Whipple explains there is nothing wrong with this female orgasm goal-focused script, but it is a problem when it is:
In this article, I will start to explore a unique and powerful philosophy behind sexual success that grounds out into practical actions and tips and insights that will focus more on what NOT to do rather than WHAT to do. This might seem strange - but there seems to be a huge gap between what sex-experts tell us about better sex and what the media reports. This is especially true concering female orgasm. It seems that the best first-step is to challenge conventional wisdom on sex tips and female orgasm! Sex Tips & Techniques - Pathways To An Orgasm CureMost people think of sex as strictly something that they do. Obviously, there is no shortage of sex tips and advice on achieving a mind-boggling female orgasm via the media outlets of popular TV, magazines and Internet. Do these statements sound familiar?
There is a good chance you have tried many sex tips with varying success on achieving female orgasm. But probably none that gave you lasting sexual comfort and assurance as a sexually active women. So the question is - How is it that sex tips seem to always fall short? On one hand, the limitations of sex tips are quickly pointed out by many sex therapists. The 3 authors in, Sex Matters For Women", suggest that sex tips are not given in a context that are realistic to the readers [2]. That is why we recommend the 'The Female Orgasm Reveal - you will not get just sex tips. You will understand sexual performance guidance that you can understand as whole series of steps that provide you with options that you can apply to own situation. You will learn to read your own and your partners body signals so that you can respond and learn to spark passion from within. This in turn will lead to a significantly improved female orgasm. There are other types of sexual education courses. I suggest you start with a course style that you are more comfortable with. The Tantric.com Guide approaches sexual experience from an eastern philospohy mindset with a focus on the process. The focus on female pleasure and female orgasm make this a great educational resource. And the Sinclaire Institute education on female orgasm provides a more traditional western approach with a focus on outcome. Again expanding the meaning of female orgasm focuse is an important component to this course. We recommend both courses because they are both perfect complimentary learning tools to share with your partner. It's not just about applying tips, it is more about discoverying how to increase the pleasure for your partner. It is about learning together. Dr. David Schnarch, a national recognized sex therapist says:
Yet women's magazines, for example, regularly advise
readers to dress themselves in Saran Wrap or do something new and
crazy- they call it "spicing it up!". So what is it that sex experts are really concerned
about it? Could sex tips result in doing more harm than
good in your sexual relationships?
According to the experts the answer is a definite maybe! Dr. Scharch points out that it could be very exciting to do something erotically-novel like greet your Lover at the door stark naked. The problem is the next step: What happens if he or she walks right by and asks what you fixed for dinner? Dr. Scharch suggests that most of us would take our partner's potential response personally and feel devastated - enough so that the very thought of failing may prevent some from even trying to do something new. While this example may not apply directly to you, it does illustrate the problem of trying to turn your sex life around with only sex tips and techniques. Sex tips in themselves are tools that come without instructions on how to apply them in your sex life. They may help you build your ways of expressing your sexuality and female orgasm, but they are not roadmaps to the type of intimate sex and female orgasm that brings deep satisfaction or nuture the idea of an expanded female orgasm. This is not to say that sex tips and sexual aids can not play an important role in your sexual health. The message here from the sex experts is that sex tips should never substitute your responsibility to personal development as a sexual being. That is why opening your mind and advancing your sexual knowledge and practice is critical for buidling your capacity for a lifetime enjoyment of women's sexuality (womens sexuality). Dr Whipple and Dr. Scharch suggest that personal development is the foundation of intimacy - it is the essential factor for your sexual fulfillment. Without it, you increase your risk of falling into the sexual trap!
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