Better Sex Is About Erotic Pleasure

Learn 7 Pathways to Release Passion in Your Relationship

Just think of what better sex really means and what factors contribute to erotic pleasure.

The composition of sensations are endless:

Here is a short list:

• Scents
  
  
• Tastes
  
  
• Visual images
  
  
• Varying qualities of touch given and received
  
  
• feelings emanating from from within our muscles and internal organs
  
  
• Sounds made by our partner or ourselves

Any combination of sensations can result in a sexual trigger.

It can be quick and instantaneous

.... or take hours

.... or even days!

The only certainty is unpredictability!

You never know how you or your partner will respond even with the same sexual sensations.

A word of caution!

As human beings we natural habituate to external stimuli - we desensitize - so the golden rule of "variety" is the key to fantastic sex.

The secret of "variety" is ancient and time tested.

The kama sutra a 1500 year old text provides a detailed guide on the variety of sexual sensations and combinations that will lead to better sex.

A great source of information on how you can learn to bring tantric sex into your sex life can be found at this great tantric sex resources forum -- make sure you navigate to the homepage and access a great selection of articles about the Kama Sutra and how easy and simple it really is.


Don't Be Shy - Let Your Curiosity Free and Release The Passion Within!

Ancient Foreplay Dance for Orgasmic Pre-Sex

• Embracing (4 types)
  
  
• Kissing (7 types)
  
  
• Biting (8 types)
  
  
• Pressing (8 types)
  

In addition to the basic 4 steps there other variations of touch calculated to heighten sexual arousal. The "Kama Sutra" gets a little wild and kinky by today's standard as it touts:

• Slapping
  
  
• Spanking
  
  
• Scratching
  
  
• Biting
  
  

with accompanying sexual sounds of shrieks and moans.

Modern Tips for Better and Improved Sex

Dr. Elison author of "Women's Sexualities" emphasizes the importance of transition as a key to better sex.

It is the ability to move from one moment to the next - to fall and rise together and separate and rejoin effortlessly.

It is an interaction where one thing leads to another in a natural flow that leads to successive levels of better and better sex.

A prerequisite for better sex through the mastery of transitions is one were couples are open to discovery and learning and committed to expanding their sexuality.

When a couple engages in sex as learners, they can avoid expectation failure!

Expectations or assumptions can literally kill a moments passion - how often have you heard

"...But I thought you like that, Honey".

How did you feel when your partner spoke to you like that?

The implicit message in such a message is that "you are an object to be manipulated". It sets up a mindset of right and wrong which leads to performance anxiety - the results is unsatisfying sex.

With a slight change of focus towards a learning mindset you can turn the same moment into a a fiery moment of passionate.

Imagine the same moment, but your partner says "How does that feel honey?".

The statement is focused on you! You feel good, and your partner feels good that he is pleasing you.

It sets up a mindset of better and better sex.

Good learners are good lovers!!

The key is the ability to continually flow through the 3 R's:

• Read
  
  
• Respond
  
  
• Readjust

to what your partner needs now - not what they liked before!

7 Pathways to Better Sex

1. Better Sex Tip - Transition Activities
   
   
• on your own, use non-sexual activities to warm-up for sex by building your closeness and intimacy (i.e. bath, stretch, bathing exercises)
  
  
  
2. Better Sex Tip - Build Sexual Tension with Teasing and Simmering
   
   
• build anticipation and practice patience with flirting and innuendoes
  
  
  
3. Better Sex Tip - Create Time & Space
   
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• from a weekend romantic getaway to the Quickie before breakfast you need to have the appropriate time to express your sexual needs.
  
  
• it is a thin line between positive sexual tension and negative sexual pressure - learn to know the difference as a couple.
  
  
  
  
4. Better Sex Tip - Erotic Stimulation
   
   
• use the kama sutra as a guide to the infinite variety of physical contact and touch:
  
  
  • temperature
    
    
  • pressure
    
    
  • texture
    
    
  • shape
    
    
  • shading
    
    
  • tone
    
    
  • intensity
    
    
  • location of touch
    
    
    
5. Better Sex Tip - Eliminate Distractions
   
   
• take of distracting details ahead of time. If need be talk about safe sex and contraception before, unplug the phone and lock the doors!
  
  
  
6. Better Sex - Merging Expectations - Celebrate Differences
   
   
• if you and your partner have differing expectations about your sexual activities talk about them openly and share them with the purpose of combining them into a new sexual script.
  
  
• try something new to the both of you - i.e. sexual toys
  
  
  
7. Better Sex - Know Your Sexual Style and Your Partners Sexual Style
   
   
   • What is your sensual style preference - think of what turns you on. Is it something that:
     
     
     • You see (visual)
       
       
     • You hear (auditory)
       
       
     • You feel (kinestic)
       
       
     • Taste/Smell (gustatory)
       
       
   • Most of us use one or two means to perceive the world around us - problems can arise when our lovers style is different then ours.
     
     
   • Learn to adjust your sexual style to give your partner the stimulation that drives their passion - it leads to better sex!